A lot of guys might not like to admit it, but they do get nervous about giving the best man's speech at their friends' or family members' wedding. Actually, it doesn't have to be all that big of a deal. You do want to cover your bases and get the important things right, and this includes being appropriate for the occasion. Sure you want to be respectful, but humor is essential in making people feel at ease and enjoying the speech. Humor gives a moment for people to unwind and relax during all the events of the day.
That said, let's take a look at some do's and don'ts with using humor in your best man speech.
Smile, be warm in your delivery and relaxed. Even if you aren't so funny, people will still enjoy your speech if you are enjoying yourself.
Include a funny story about the groom. That's what your audience is expecting, after all. It doesn't have to be long or amazing, but just something that gives a window into what kind of guy he is when he's not wearing a tux and on his best behavior.
Exaggerate for effect. Be over the top and everyone will realize you are just kidding in good humor. “I know there was something different about Mike when we graduated from high school. Then it came to me – he was 22 years old!”
Slow down, and pause after the funny parts. Hopefully you'll have to pause for a while for all the laughter, but even if not, don't rush!
Be crass. Your audience will mainly be people you know well, so you can be informal. But resist the temptation to be too crude or risque. You may feel comfortable with most of the people in attendance, but you don't want to make a mistake of judgment and embarrass anyone.
Pretend you are a comedian. Yes, Will Ferrell or Eddie Murphy might be able to give a heck of a funny speech. But you're no stand-up, so don't try and run it like a routine or a stream of patter. Leave the comedian's ego at home too.
Leave out a sincere note in your speech. You're not being the class clown, you're a good friend wishing the couple all the best in the future. So it's best to conclude sincerely, especially when you are making the toast.
To sum up, be appropriate, give a funny insight into what makes the groom tick, enjoy giving the speech, and be sincere. With that in mind, you'll give a successful speech with the right balance of humor.