Weddings are supposed to be fun, right? Sure, there will be a few emotional tears, and some angry words will be shared when the words “cash bar” pass through the crowd, but for the most part weddings are a joyous affair. There’s food and drink, friends and relatives, music, dancing and … speeches.

Speeches can be one of the most fun, and funniest, parts of a wedding – if you do it right. This is a time when you really want people laughing with you, rather than at you. To make that happen, you have to remember a few things.

First, keep the humor relevant. That story about catching your neighbor locking himself out of his house in his underwear on Christmas morning is hilarious, but these people don’t care. Save that one for the bar. Try to think of lighthearted anecdotes about the happy couple, and things in their lives.

Also, remember to tell these stories sparingly. It’s better to have one or two finely honed dazzlers than a whole speech peppered with lame ducks. Watching you bomb repeatedly can be funny, but not in a good way. Get comfortable with a couple of really good tales, and put your energy into telling them with flair.

Obviously, these stories don’t have to be based on true events. If you’re a good storyteller, let it rip. But, remember to speak to your audience and keep it in the moment. That said, it’s important to keep in mind this “moment” is not your moment, and it’s probably a kid-friendly moment. If you embarrass the wedding couple, either by being raunchy or by roasting them, you will only end up embarrassing yourself.

Finally, if you’re not too familiar with the couple, or you’re just a bad storyteller, don’t feel guilty about cribbing a little from your favorite comedy show or sitcom. After all, you’re not a dancing bear – you’re just a really witty person giving a great wedding speech.